Posted by Toph on October 13, 2004, at 14:31:02
In reply to Re: group dynamic, posted by Dr. Bob on October 13, 2004, at 10:03:14
> > > > idealization ... It is very easy to fall into the trap.
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> That's an interesting theory, that idealization could be felt as pressure. I think what he meant, however, was the leader also seeing himself or herself as ideal.
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Would you please clarify why the leader sees himself as ideal? This seems to be the other side of Weinberg's sword - is it that the leader develops an illusionary belief that he is perfect, available, or tolerant, when in actuality he is less than ideal as he could make a mistake, need to distance himself from his stressful group or impulsively say something sarcastic, for example?> Different people may "hold" for the group (by expressing or being seen as expressing) these feelings at different times. Maybe at that time it served a function to see me as holding them?
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So, by this, do you mean that, for example, I felt that it was ubsurd for newwife to suggest that problem posters be banished, and when you innocently queried her to clarify if this were the consequence she intended, I then transferred my distain, frustration, want to be sarcastic, whatever for newwife on to you and your motives?
-Toph
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