Posted by Toph on October 12, 2004, at 12:06:03
In reply to Re: group dynamic + please be civil » Atticus, posted by Dr. Bob on October 12, 2004, at 3:41:24
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> The above remind me of something Haim Weinberg said about virtual large groups:
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> > Unfortunately, idealization is a double-edged sword. It fosters unrealistic expectations of the group leader, and when these expectations are not met, the group becomes furious.
> >I find it very interesting, Bob, that you left out a very salient part of Mr. Weinberg's advice to virtual VLG administators: "it (idealization) creates an intensive counter-transference reaction of the leader. It is very easy to fall into the trap." This is exactly what many of us accused you of in this thread, namely that you let counter-transference get the best of you with newwife. This wouldn't be such a bad thing, after all, you're human. If you trust the group it can dynamically work it out with you. I don't think I could even read so many posts as you do without building some pretty strong feelings about the posters and myself. You maintain that your response was purely neutral, a cerebral inquiry to have her further clarify her analogy. I will accept that (or I'm trying to, anyway). I just wanted to note the curious ommission in your citation.
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