Posted by Dr. Bob on October 13, 2004, at 10:03:14
In reply to Re: group dynamic » Dr. Bob, posted by Toph on October 13, 2004, at 7:38:44
> > > idealization ... creates an intensive counter-transference reaction of the leader. It is very easy to fall into the trap.
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> > what kind of countertransference did you see me as having?
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> Could it be that the idealization dynamic works both ways? The group expects you to be perfect so that somehow this pressure either externally imposed or self-imposed causes counter-transference (whatever that is)?That's an interesting theory, that idealization could be felt as pressure. I think what he meant, however, was the leader also seeing himself or herself as ideal.
> Somehow, someway, without hearing the intonation of your voice, a part of the group detected sarcasm,condensation,ridicule, something bad in your question to newwife.
I don't know about "detected in", how about "attributed to"?
> > > The LG is full of negative feelings: the frustration of not being heard or mirrored, the alienation one feels in the crowd, the bombarding by stimuli that blocks cognitive functions, the tendency to find some refuge from losing one's identity in the mob by clinging to subgroups and attacking other subgroups.
Different people may "hold" for the group (by expressing or being seen as expressing) these feelings at different times. Maybe at that time it served a function to see me as holding them?
> your multiple PBCs and no block
I did finally block her, but earlier today I saw I just said "please be civil" in the subject line. I guess that would fit with your culpability theory!
Bob
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