Posted by Shar on April 10, 2005, at 0:19:20
In reply to OK, oldsters...a call for advice, posted by allisonm on April 9, 2005, at 19:48:31
Hi, Sweet A,
How come increasing one's dose (of, ie, Zoloft) seems to be a cop out?!That sounds like a diabetic saying, well, I know this much insulin helps a little...but I DO NOT want to take MORE!!
If you are dealing with a chemical imbalance, then that needs to be addressed FOR YOUR BENEFIT. So YOU can feel ok.
I do not know much about the condition your sweetie has, except it seems to impair his social skills. However, if he can't love you because you are fatter/skinnier than before, then, that is GOOD info for you! Sheesh! Wait until you're 40-50 years old, things like that change very quickly!
By the same token, you have to answer the question (at least in your own mind) do you want out of this relationship? May be that he is correct. Is he? You can say so in this forum (unless he reads here and knows who you are). Are you tired of him?
The mini-vacation you described sounds thoroughly delightful to me, and I'd be totally delighted to be able to do something like that. And, if, after all that, all he could come up with was essentially a 'you're getting fat' comment...well, it might be a good time to pause, step back, see what you're getting from the relationship, and consider if it is worth your time (oh, I know how COLD that sounds!).
Anyhow, many xoxoxo's to you!
Shar
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