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Posted by st@cy on December 16, 2003, at 17:35:15
alright, so here's the issue at hand. there is this guy that i really like, i met him when i was drunk a few months ago and he liked me. we've e-mailed eachother since, but i can tell he's losing interest in me. i'm becoming more and more insecure the more and more i like him and i don't want to face rejection again so i decided i'm going to stop e-mailing him. i've built him up so much in my mind that i really like him, but i don't know how he feels about me and i know it's not the same. so i'm just going to end it before he does. why? because if he ends it, i will once again be staring at the fact that i can't keep anyone interested in me! sure, they like me when i'm drunk, but as soon as the real me shines through they all go away. sorry, i just had to get this off my chest because i'm going nuts! i can't get him off my mind and i hate it when i really care about someone, it's so painful bc it is always the same. i really didn't want to lose this one, but i know that it's only a matter of time before he stops talking to me. i would feel much more relieved if i just ended it now.
Posted by blink23 on December 16, 2003, at 17:57:53
In reply to rants about fear and love..., posted by st@cy on December 16, 2003, at 17:35:15
Sound like you could get head over heels for this one.. Do you guys date? Have you seen each other since the night at the bar? Or you guys just talking buddies over the internet?? It sounds like he is interested in things you have to say, unless he wouldnt be in contact with you still ya know? But really what kind of relationship do you guys have, its sounds as if you met him one time and now ever since you guys just talk on here?????
blink23
Posted by st@cy on December 16, 2003, at 21:30:23
we have not seen eachother since we met at a frat party actually in early octover. we've spoken on the phone once, but primarily we just e-mail eachother over the net. lately his e-mails have become further between, and i'm becoming insecure. i know it'll end and be my fault bc he's losing interest in me. he's a great guy, and i can fall for him but i won't let myself. that's just asking to get hurt. i mean, he's hours away and still living with his ex girlfriend!! he claims he has feelings for me but he can only offer a friendship bc he's just in a bad situation. i can't do that!!! i'm just going to stop it now b4 i end up rejected and hurt. i apologize if this sounds pathetic, i wrote this stuff down in my journal and then reread it and thought, god-i'm so friggin pathetic...thanx for listening anyway
Posted by Eddie Sylvano on December 17, 2003, at 9:38:05
In reply to in response to blink23, posted by st@cy on December 16, 2003, at 21:30:23
>he's hours away and still living with his ex girlfriend!!
----------Yeah, leave this guy. It's not your personality at fault here, but perhaps his being too leading or intimate in a situation where he knew nothing could develop. He probably just wanted the attention, and didn't consider your point of view. The fact that's he's living with his ex is further suggestion that he needs female attention at whatever cost.
Posted by LynneDa on December 17, 2003, at 11:09:04
In reply to Re: in response to blink23 » st@cy, posted by Eddie Sylvano on December 17, 2003, at 9:38:05
Run, don't walk honey! Sounds like he's otherwise occupied. I also had the habit of falling hard fast and putting too much into a little bit of attention - then feeling totally insecure as time went by. That's giving someone else too much power over you! It's so much easier to be the one breaking things off - control and closure!
For the long term, realize that when you meet someone when you're drunk, you are a different person. That's fine for just fun dating - I certainly did my share of it in college too. But, it's not the way to find someone for the long haul. Not that it doesn't work for some, but I think you know what I'm saying :-).
I'm a little jaded and cynical now, so I do recognize when guys just want the attention of another female in their lives. Here's my advice: Do your detective work first before you engage your heart. Internet conversations are good for that!
Take care and best of luck - you're at a very fun time in your life, enjoy!!
~ Lynne
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 17, 2003, at 11:12:13
In reply to rants about fear and love..., posted by st@cy on December 16, 2003, at 17:35:15
If he says he is living with his ex-girlfriend, I can guarantee you she is really not his Ex girlfriend but his current girlfriend. He just wanted to have fun with you as well. Don't contact this guy again! You have good instincts!.
Posted by st@cy on December 17, 2003, at 12:58:04
In reply to rants about fear and love..., posted by st@cy on December 16, 2003, at 17:35:15
all of your advice really opened my eyes. i always looked at him like a perfect angel and i feel so naive bc i never stopped to think that his ex may not be his ex at all! i feel much better now, and i am a lot more confident in my decision to break it off. thanks again for the support and opinions!
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