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Posted by KB on February 18, 2002, at 13:42:38
Someone I have been intimately involved with for 6 months chose valentines' day to reveal to me that not only had they been a heavy drinker, but also used cocaine. We went to high school and dated when we were 13 (13 years ago) and I knew about the drinking then, as well as LSD, but when we re-encountered each other again this past June I was told that those behaviors were over.
Now it turns out that that was part of a 75-day sober period, followed by a relapse (that I had no idea about even though we were involved by that point) and now 4 months of sobriety.
I've never had anyone in my life who used cocaine, though I've had clients who did, and it makes me really nervous to see this vulnerable side of someone I have come to depend heavily on.
Any thoughts?
Posted by kid_A on February 18, 2002, at 19:49:07
In reply to cocaine and relationships - help!, posted by KB on February 18, 2002, at 13:42:38
KB,
I've had a good ammount of experience with cocaine as a user and as someone who has been in a relationship that was dominated by and destroyed by it, let alone watched a family member become consumed by it, even worse than I was.The most important thing to realise is that as a drug coke is very easy to get addicted to, yet at the same time we have to look at our own desires, what constitutes our own jouissance or enjoyment and sometimes drugs are a part of this.
What I'm saying is that the act doesn't necisarily translate into the person, that beyond the habit there is a person who's acting to fullfill their own form of desire, no matter how detrimental.
The best thing you can do is be supportive no matter what the outcome. This doesn't mean turning a blind eye to the problem when it surfaces, but nothing hurts more than being abandoned for your own weaknesses...
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