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Posted by Dinah on June 20, 2004, at 8:13:37
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on June 20, 2004, at 8:11:29
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040614/msgs/358208.html
In light of your Effexor administrative actions, wouldn't this be something similar? Either overgeneralization or jumping to conclusions? The poster didn't say that "in his experience" this was true.I'm not saying it is a civility violation, I'm just concerned with the possibility of disruptions in therapeutic progress in people's individual therapy, and the freedom people now feel in expressing their experiences.
I can't help remembering at least one incident where this sort of post could have been directed at me, and probably driven me into hiding for quite some time re. disclosure on Babble. I was absolutely gut terrified at disclosing what I did.
Posted by Racer on June 20, 2004, at 13:45:38
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on June 20, 2004, at 8:13:37
I've read a few things by that poster -- and have to say that this really isn't the first of the pot stirring incidents. Considering how fragile partlycloudy has been lately, and considering the stated purpose of these forums -- id est: mutual support -- I really believe that this is a very dangerous precedent to set here.
I have very mixed feelings about the idea of total blocks for posters -- for a variety of reasons, not least being that many times this sort of seeming hostility is one way to plead for help. On the other hand, when someone comes in offering this sort of pain, perhaps this is not the best possible forum for that person.
Dr Bob, whatever you choose to do in this case, I trust that it is what you believe to be the best for all concerned. (Heck, even the times you've PBC'd me in situations where it really hurt or I've felt rather unfairly singled out for a single post after a history with another poster, I've still known that you were doing what you considered best for the community at large.)
By the way, if you have followed any of what's going on with me currently, you'll know that I'm not really in a posting place right now. This subject raises such strong feelings that I had to chime in with Dinah.
Posted by lucy stone on June 20, 2004, at 17:29:21
In reply to Chiming in, posted by Racer on June 20, 2004, at 13:45:38
I also agree with Dinah. I tangled a bit with this poster about psychoanalysis. I am comfortable with the treatment I have chosen and the poster's comments made my angry. I controled it (yeah analysis!), but it did bother me. I wondered then and I do now about the affect of this continued skepticism on more fragile posters. People in difficult spots in their lives don't need cold water thrown all over their treatments of choice.
Posted by partlycloudy on June 20, 2004, at 17:33:50
In reply to Re: Chiming in, posted by lucy stone on June 20, 2004, at 17:29:21
Also my experience with this poster.
Posted by rs on June 21, 2004, at 20:26:36
In reply to Re: Chiming in, posted by partlycloudy on June 20, 2004, at 17:33:50
I do not post often but read every day. This poster is starting to be very upsetting. I know all have a right to say what they feel. but I feel the last post about Fathers day was very cold. Sorry if this is not right to post. I enjoy this site much. All are great and no one deserves to have comments made like that to them.
Posted by Aphrodite on June 21, 2004, at 20:42:39
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on June 20, 2004, at 8:13:37
I had a very serious concern about my therapy session today, but it didn't feel at all safe to post today because of this poster. Luckily, I ended up emailing Daisy M. who was kind enough to share her email with me.
I'm usually not hypersensitive, but I feel some comments are interfering with the supportive nature of this board.
Posted by Dinah on June 21, 2004, at 21:53:04
In reply to Re: Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on June 20, 2004, at 8:13:37
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040614/msgs/358814.html
I find myself highly offended, as his post would appear to be calling me a fraud.
Posted by Dinah on June 21, 2004, at 21:56:11
In reply to Could you review this one for overgeneralization, posted by Dinah on June 21, 2004, at 21:53:04
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040614/msgs/358820.html
Posted by gardenergirl on June 21, 2004, at 22:53:59
In reply to Could you review this one for overgeneralization, posted by Dinah on June 21, 2004, at 21:53:04
Dinah already brought this to you to check out, but I wanted to add my request.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040614/msgs/358814.html
Thanks,
gg
Posted by Jonathan on June 22, 2004, at 1:23:00
In reply to Re: Could you review this one for overgeneralization, posted by gardenergirl on June 21, 2004, at 22:53:59
... for info about the poster
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040614/msgs/356626.html
Posted by Dr. Bob on June 22, 2004, at 1:36:24
In reply to Re: And this one for incivility?, posted by Dinah on June 21, 2004, at 21:56:11
> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040614/msgs/358208.html
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> In light of your Effexor administrative actions, wouldn't this be something similar? Either overgeneralization or jumping to conclusions?> Could you review this one for overgeneralization
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040614/msgs/358814.html
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> I find myself highly offended, as his post would appear to be calling me a fraud.> And this one for incivility?
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040614/msgs/358820.htmlSorry, could you specify what exactly in those posts might be problematic? In an email if you think that might be better?
> I'm just concerned with the possibility of disruptions in therapeutic progress in people's individual therapy, and the freedom people now feel in expressing their experiences.
>
> Dinah> I am comfortable with the treatment I have chosen and the poster's comments made my angry. I controled it (yeah analysis!), but it did bother me. I wondered then and I do now about the affect of this continued skepticism on more fragile posters. People in difficult spots in their lives don't need cold water thrown all over their treatments of choice.
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> lucy stoneI understand the concern about potential disruptions. OTOH, I'd like to encourage different points of view.
If posters are more fragile, it might help if they were more selective in what they read -- and received more support from others...
> This poster is starting to be very upsetting... I feel the last post about Fathers day was very cold.
>
> rsPlease remember not to post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down. IMO, it's OK for someone to be skeptical. If you feel upset by them, please try to control any angry feelings you have. It may be best just not to respond. Or not even to read any more of their posts.
There may be posters who try to start arguments and upset others. Of course, not everyone who starts an argument or upsets someone else *intends* to do so...
Bob
Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 1:57:13
In reply to Re: feeling upset, posted by Dr. Bob on June 22, 2004, at 1:36:24
I'll just take a little breaky poo from Babble until it feels safe to post again without being told... Well never mind, you wouldnt' see it anyway.
And I'll say it for you Dr. Bob, so you don't have to.
"Dinah, you have to do what you think is best for you. Yada yada yada..."
So don't say it, ok?
Posted by Aphrodite on June 22, 2004, at 6:10:14
In reply to Re: feeling upset, posted by Dr. Bob on June 22, 2004, at 1:36:24
> If posters are more fragile, it might help if they were more selective in what they read -- and received more support from others...
>Speaking as one of the fragile ones, how can I receive more support from others when it feels unsafe to post when certain posters are using the thread for less than noble purposes? Additionally, if good folks like Dinah, who I trust and depend on, are taking a break, I'm not receiving the additional support I need to handle it.
Posted by lucy stone on June 22, 2004, at 7:53:30
In reply to Could you review this one for overgeneralization, posted by Dinah on June 21, 2004, at 21:53:04
This long post was a reply to one I posted. I was ready to give a long post in reply and stopped myself. This post also says that "psychoanalysis never helped anyone except the Ts wallet" which was aimed directly at me since I have posted that I am in analysis. Although I have repeatedly posted that my therapy has helped me, I do go through rough spots and have doubts sometimes but I don't feel free to ask for support when I do. I'm afraid it will be taken as "proof" that analysis doesn't help.
Posted by partlycloudy on June 22, 2004, at 8:17:59
In reply to Re: feeling upset -- lack of support Dr. Bob, posted by Aphrodite on June 22, 2004, at 6:10:14
I agree with Aphrodite. This forum is not the place I would expect to be challenged in my choice of modalities. Encouraged, yes; supported, yes; questioned as to the validity of my choice? Absolutely NOT.
Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 8:40:12
In reply to Re: feeling upset -- lack of support Dr. Bob, posted by Aphrodite on June 22, 2004, at 6:10:14
Aphrodite, I'll still be around to support you and others. But I sure won't be self disclosing unless I get really really angry and make a very bad decision.
It's a shame that we have to second guess our every post to see if it contains grounds for attack, but that's the way it is.
I had actually predicted this outcome publicly. That Dr. Bob wouldn't see a thing wrong with the posts from the person who has admitted to being flamed at other sites for saying the same things, but would hand out PBC's like candy for those who respond to it.
It's one of the less pleasant aspects of Babble, and I tend to get too upset about it. I expect more from Dr. Bob than he's capable of giving, I guess.
Posted by partlycloudy on June 22, 2004, at 9:17:18
In reply to Re: feeling upset -- lack of support Dr. Bob » Aphrodite, posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 8:40:12
OK, this is at the top of the Psychology board:
"This is a message board for mutual support and education. It focuses on psychology and psychotherapy: different theoretical orientations and techniques, the therapy process, transference, how to find a therapist, etc. Please note, however, that psychotherapy itself is not provided here. There are a bunch of other boards here, too: etc..."
The operative words here are SUPPORT and EDUCATION. Being challenged on our choice of treatment would not fall under this guideline, would it?
Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 9:27:44
In reply to Dinah, posted by partlycloudy on June 22, 2004, at 9:17:18
Apparently (and I clearly don't see his rationale) Dr. Bob doesn't see it as *unsupportive*.
And it's Dr. Bob's board and his call, and he's actually been pretty consistent about allowing this.
I'm currently working on setting up a Yahoo group for times like these when Dr. Bob isn't doing an adequate job of protecting us.
Fortunately it wouldn't need to be used that often, as he usually does a bang-up job.
Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 10:31:42
In reply to Dinah, posted by partlycloudy on June 22, 2004, at 9:17:18
or what appear to be inconsistencies.
People have been sanctioned on more than one occasion for saying that Effexor is no good without adding that this was their experience and mileage might vary. Yet the statement:
"Psychoanalysis has never been shown to help any condition, with the exception of the therapists bank account."
is just fine.
People have been sanctioned for saying negative things about anti-benzo sites, yet the statement:
"In many ways PT has actually gotten worse since then: examples such as rebirthing therapy, Recovered memory therapy, and MPD (dissociative disorder) therapy have become quite the "in style" therapies, but they are HIGHLY questionable, if not outright frauds, as my links have demonstrated."
is just dandy.
Especially when I can't tell the difference between saying those therapies are frauds and saying that posters who have reported, directly to the poster making the above statement, that they experience recovered memories or dissociative disorders are either lying or delusional.
I don't get it.
Does anyone know if Dr. Bob gets grant money from the manufacturers of Effexor?
Posted by gardenergirl on June 22, 2004, at 11:25:19
In reply to What I *really* don't get are the inconsistencies, posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 10:31:42
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> "Psychoanalysis has never been shown to help any condition, with the exception of the therapists bank account."I absolutely agree with Dinah. I read this statement, especially the use of the word "never", to be a sweeping generalization about psychoanalysis. I also read it to be an untrue statement, as psychoanalysis certainly has helped people in the past, and is currently helping posters on this forum.
I try to remind myself that fires has had negative experiences in therapy. We all are influenced by our own experiences. It may be hard to understand what psychotherapy can really be like when it is effective, helpful, and appropriately undertaken without personal experience of the same. Hopefully, those of us who ARE being helped by wonderful T's will continue to feel comfortable posting here.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on June 22, 2004, at 11:29:04
In reply to What I *really* don't get are the inconsistencies, posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 10:31:42
Flit flit flit
"Hmmm, that light looks good over there."
ZAP!
Sizzle!
Spirals down to the ground, stunned.
gg the learning impaired moth
Posted by spoc on June 22, 2004, at 12:51:24
In reply to Oh, and one more thing..., posted by gardenergirl on June 22, 2004, at 11:29:04
So true GG, and all things considered, that really may be the closest we can ever get to each obtaining the particular environment and tone we want from this site, at almost all times. I need to remember it too.
Sometimes the resulting upset is even easier to steer clear of than others. At least one of the threads referenced here was started by Fires him/herself awhile after those previously feeling offended already knew how they felt about his/her opinions. Things can still be very hard to resist, I agree, but we may feel more in control and therefore safer if we make that more about ourselves. However, I know there is also concern for those who do not yet know the things they may be better off avoiding. But still we can do what we can.
I'm not condoning the material or addressing that aspect at all. Rather, I'm condoning your observation GG that beyond any administrative actions, we can and should exercise our own options, such as avoidance. And, if necessary, the "Do not post to me" option, to the extent that helps (it probably at least soothes the eye, and lessons the impulse to open a post). These may not be fulfilling options, but they are at least ones that are always within our control, whereas what appears on the site isn't always.
Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 14:44:41
In reply to Re: Oh, and one more thing... » gardenergirl, posted by spoc on June 22, 2004, at 12:51:24
funny thing is that while I might feel anything from irritated to infuriated with posters or posts, it's pretty much dr. bob that hurts me. and he never even knows it, or knows why. funny, isn't it. i know i laugh about it all the time.
Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 14:46:02
In reply to Re: Oh, and one more thing..., posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 14:44:41
Posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 15:48:28
In reply to Re: Oh, and one more thing..., posted by Dinah on June 22, 2004, at 14:44:41
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