Posted by spoc on June 22, 2004, at 12:51:24
In reply to Oh, and one more thing..., posted by gardenergirl on June 22, 2004, at 11:29:04
So true GG, and all things considered, that really may be the closest we can ever get to each obtaining the particular environment and tone we want from this site, at almost all times. I need to remember it too.
Sometimes the resulting upset is even easier to steer clear of than others. At least one of the threads referenced here was started by Fires him/herself awhile after those previously feeling offended already knew how they felt about his/her opinions. Things can still be very hard to resist, I agree, but we may feel more in control and therefore safer if we make that more about ourselves. However, I know there is also concern for those who do not yet know the things they may be better off avoiding. But still we can do what we can.
I'm not condoning the material or addressing that aspect at all. Rather, I'm condoning your observation GG that beyond any administrative actions, we can and should exercise our own options, such as avoidance. And, if necessary, the "Do not post to me" option, to the extent that helps (it probably at least soothes the eye, and lessons the impulse to open a post). These may not be fulfilling options, but they are at least ones that are always within our control, whereas what appears on the site isn't always.
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