Posted by benbetter on February 7, 2006, at 1:02:08
This probably isnt supposed to be in the withdrawl section but I feel it goes hand in hand.. If you are having Withdrawls from an AD... You may get back into your funk.
Alright here is what i do when the bottom drops out.
I got it from my sister.Make a note to yourself when you are not at rock bottom.
This note is in case of an emergency. You would write it as if you were writing it to a sibling or spouce or child that you really care about. And this loved one is feeling really down. You want this note to include what you want your self to do in case of a melt down. It is kinda like a fire drill.. but it is for the brain.Ok now the first thing I put on my note is the phone numbers of the three most important people to me that i could talk to. In my case It is three of my family members These are people you could spill your guts to and they can hear you and listen.
2nd, I write down the things that are really important that have no relation to what is bringing me down. For example... My girl freind and I broke up... I had to remeber the possitives away from my ex.
Some of those positives are things that you would tell some one else if they were down. For instance I need to remind myself I am only 34.. I have a ton of life left and with a little help and my possitive attitude I will get through this.
Now when things have been really bad I mean rock bottom You have to remeber those times.. And remeber that you made it through ... You have to see the growth in every step.. A little possitive can give you giant steps forward. Remember also that all the pains dont go away over night.
Next, I give myself a time limit to stay in my house and wallow in the darkness.. I am talking about those sudden dives that feel like its the end of the world. I set the limit at one hour.. Other people need to figure out there own time limit.. I have to have some of this time to feel the pain.. I think it helps you get it out... But after your time limit you need to get up and go outside or some where .. A walk with your dog or by yourself what ever you like. But you cannot let youself just lay around because you gain no strength.you have to help yourself because no one can help you unless you help yourself.. This does not mean you have to go at it alone... But you are in the only one who can ultimately make yourself stronger.. always remeber this... and some times you feel like screw it you dont care any more.. Stop right there.... and read the note...
One of the biggest parts that i think has to happen during the toughest moments is... go to the gym... Let me tell you what.. Work out the endorphins.. You can jog, walk , pilates what ever but exercise. Now one of the big things about going to a gym is You are around new people..( trust me I do not excersize) but with this situation you have to.. Also at the gym.. It is not about getting big muscles.. It is about hearing music and seeing other people, sweating and putting your mind in a better place through working out.
Another big one.... Drinking does not help... Trust me, I love whiskey beer voka gin.... all but rum.
Every time I tried to drink the pains away....I turned into a sorry crying mess and Depression kicked my *ss... It isnt really worth it....
More later
poster:benbetter
thread:607140
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