Posted by alexandra_k on January 6, 2022, at 10:06:37
In reply to Re: my mother died, posted by beckett2 on January 5, 2022, at 19:22:59
> I'm not familiar with The Bone People. Did she write the one novel? (I looked her up and didn't see another.)
I never read the book. I just saw the NY Times article saying she died at age 74. The article said that the novel was not well received in NZ and also said that none of her subsequent writing has been published.
People don't do well, in NZ. They have to leave, for that. Flight of the Concords had to go to NY to succeed. Lorde had to go to the US to succeed. Etc. They didn't have a chance in NZ because there are a small group of people in NZ who claim up all the money and the titles and the power and the credit for 'comedy' or 'music' or whatever and they wouldn't share with them. Wouldn't pay them, wouldn't give them air-time etc. Not because they thought they were crap -- but because they showed up how crap the ones claiming up all the money etc etc really were... In other words, they weren't allowed to perform in NZ precisely because they had genuine merit.
They teach the Bone People in Secondary School, I believe. Now that she is dead and they don't have to pay her they will likely come around to her as the idea/l of a national hero. That is to say someone who lived in abject poverty and died early. To motivate and inspire future generations of artists in NZ.
Because we are all about the people the people the people (the keeping of slaves).
> I didn't properly grieve my mother, at least the way she deserved. My father, I was able to. Grief is an odd bird.
I guess it is. I wonder if it was timing? Did your Mother go first? Maybe the first of the parental deaths is the hardest... Perhaps. Just a thought. Then, with the second, you have the benefit of previous experience so have a better handle on 'doing it right' (in some sense). I don't know.
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