Posted by alexandra_k on October 20, 2014, at 21:29:24
In reply to Re: Hell, what was I thinking?, posted by Toph on October 20, 2014, at 19:29:47
Ah. Benevolence. Kindness. Something like that. Forgiveness. All these things... I think... Need to come from within. That sounds trite, doesn't it. HOw the hell is one supposed to do that? I think the way to do it is to step back from oneself... Look upon oneself as the God one wishes there was... If that makes sense.
I think it is particularly hard to do that in our society because society is kind of... Not sure hypocritical is the word... About this kind of thing. I mean... Lets say you do your best... You take reasonable care... And still, something bad happens. Society prefers you to feel (unreasonably) guilty. You are *supposed* to feel guilty. Then society forgives you. And after a period of time you are allowed to internalise the forgiveness. But try... Speeding the process up and doing it yourself. Just try and prevent feelings of guilt in the first place by counselling yourself 'I did the best I could. It was unfortunate. But I did the best I could, all that could be expected of me'. Then.. Society likes to think you are a psychopath and they'd like to see you punished...
And so... Absolution must come from without. Go figure. From partners... From children... From God.
Hur.
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