Posted by SLS on October 31, 2013, at 8:32:27
In reply to And off I go again, posted by Partlycloudy on October 30, 2013, at 19:02:53
> Funny to be encouraged to leave by SLS. But he's right. This site is toxic to me. It doesn't feel safe.
> I say we are not special and I become a target. That is not unusual. But it Is bullying. You see a lot of that here, shrouded in civility or up front.
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> So I will protect myself. And take my leave, everyone's benefit. Well done Scott, Alexandra, Dr. Bob. You have a nice little world here, even though it doesn't hold up to scrutiny.
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> Goodbye. For good this time, I promise.
Don't put this on anyone else. It's on you.If you would like not to have people disagree with you on an Internet forum, then perhaps you best not post intellectual challenges.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20130930/msgs/1053331.html
"One of the first things I learned in therapy is that the disorders that bring us into session lead us to believe that we are unique and special. Unfortunately, or fortunately, this just isn't so."
What was your motivation to post this? Had someone here asked about it?
Was I uncivil to you? How did I hurt you or make Psycho-Babble any less safe for you? I don't understand why you are so angry. I sometimes still get a little defensive when I am challenged. Did you get defensive when I first asked you what you meant by using the word "special"?
It could have been an interesting discussion. I wish you were still to be here to participate. You might have received some disagreement by others at first, but who knows how much insight could have come from a dialectic.
Is it bullying or, rather, assertiveness that you have observed in me or the other people you mentioned?
Finally, what in the hell do I need to bully you for? You are not so special that I would dedicate such resources to in a vain attempt to assert my ego, right?
:-(
You were not a target.
I sometimes confuse disagreement with disapproval or personal attack. Defensiveness is an annoying vestige of my earlier years. I am still an work in progress. I hope always to be.
If you ever decide to come back, I would love to revisit your challenge suggesting that there is no specialness or uniqueness to be found in the individual.
Good luck.
- ScottSome see things as they are and ask why.
I dream of things that never were and ask why not.- George Bernard Shaw
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