Posted by Partlycloudy on September 2, 2013, at 17:45:58
In reply to Re: Nowhere else to put the words » Partlycloudy, posted by sigismund on September 2, 2013, at 17:09:08
No, Sig. In our marriage counseling, he acknowledged that conversing and talking to me about domestic tasks while I was in the shower was inappropriate. He does not have the same boundaries for himself, but I find it terribly distressing.
As he has, one by one, dropped one agreement after after another since stopping his own therapy (he said they were "just about done") the very behaviours that led me to plead for counseling have returned.
My boundaries are all but unrecognized now. Today I told him I would probably text him every day while I was gone. He was shocked. "No phone calls? I always call you when I am traveling!"
"No," I replied, "This trip is to give me some time away from you."
He has no close relationship with any of his children, now. They are estranged. He flew his mother out to live with his brother on the West Coast when she ran out of money for care, because the brother could not come up with half the money to keep her where she was.
He didn't discuss it with his mum.
He has no friends and derides every single friend I have made since knowing him. They are all "crazy".My therapist thinks he might be making my mental state of health worse than it would be without him.
I'm upset that the changes in behaviour were cosmetic, and not well intentioned. I don't think he is capable of compassion for others, really.
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