Posted by baseball55 on January 22, 2013, at 20:25:53
In reply to 35th birthday -- I'll be spending it alone. :..(, posted by PhoenixGirl on January 22, 2013, at 16:06:17
Can you find volunteer opportunities or join a book/film group to make friends? For me, I was completely isolated until I found AA. If you're not an addict, AA is no good. But there are so many other ways to meet people. My therapist told me about a website called meetup.com (I think) where you can find people in your area interested in doing things you like to do -- going to a concert, playing tennis, going for walks, whatever. You just put in your zipcode and interests and find people to meet up with.
Do you have trouble making friends? Are you shy? Maybe therapy would help. DBT and CBT therapy can be very useful in helping you overcome this. I know I am very shy and introverted and it's really impacted my life.
Fortunately, I met my husband (who is very extroverted) in college and having him and a daughter has kept me somewhat stable. But in my 40s, I became extremely aware that I had no friends and it really made me miserable.
Anyway, good luck to you. I hope something I've said helps. You have nothing but empathy and compassion from me
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