Posted by Maxime on December 31, 2010, at 23:48:13
In reply to Re: Birthday disaster » Maxime, posted by PartlyCloudy on December 31, 2010, at 8:19:06
> Happy (now belated!) birthday, sweetie.
> I think it's very wise to put off any festivities until you're feeling in a better frame of mind. I've always felt badly for those whose b'days were bundled into the Christmas celebrations. So much forced happiness would take its toll on anyone, and my birthday (on another yuck day, September 11) has made me melancholy well before 2001.
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> You're doing the right thing for yourself and that is called self care. It might feel unfamiliar to you, but it's important and the appropriate thing to do.
> pc
> ((((Maxime))))Yes, self-care is foreign to me. I had trouble with it even when I did my DBT programme. I always put others first. I felt that if we got together for my birthday that I wouldn't remain civil. That how I feel about my brother right now would interfere with everything. My mom's birthday was on 27th so we had already gotten together for that.
So I have made it through NYE the most dreaded holiday of year next to Valentines day. Finally. The season is over. We have never done anything to celebrate New Year's Day.
Again, not to sound mean, but I wish I could time for myself without my mom. I just want to have me time. But whenever I suggest it my mom gets really upset. She says she feels like a prisoner in her own home. At least for 2011 I have placed in her some activities. She refused to go to a day hospital for people with Alzheimers, so I had to be creative. I'm exhausted.
As long as the world shall last there will be wrongs, and if no man objected and no man rebelled, those wrongs would last forever. ~Clarence Darrow~
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