Posted by Dinah on October 22, 2010, at 21:43:43 [reposted on October 28, 2010, at 20:06:28 | original URL]
In reply to , posted by on December 31, 1969, at 18:00:00
> Well I don't ask for help much but feel so guilty all the time if can't do what someone asks. My youngest Daughter with the baby never is in contact unless she wants something. Out of the blue it's oh by the way would you take care of the baby sun, and other days as Bobby has a job and I have to work only from l pm to 9:30 pm and you can do your ebay here. Just feed her, change diapers, put to bed. I need you til I get a Mon-Friday 9-5 job. Now we do ebay and very unconventional hours work from about at home 5-3am with eating, feeding dogs inbetween. Need two computers as husband does the photos and touches color on his sends pics to my computer and I do the research and listings. Meanwhile stopping to eat. Before that we are out at the stores and post office and packing stuff. And people write questions wanting a measurement or some question and we have to have our items here. We can't leave here our animals and give up our only source of income. I said no and I'm beating myself up and no med can help. Any suggestions on we moved here as she threatened that she with her then husband were going to have babies and I better come or never a relationship again. So we moved. Sold our house got another. Divorced her then husband got pregnant and now is this my problem. And recently all she does the baby is scream and throw temper tantrums and they think this is fine. Please help. Thanks Phillipa
Your daughter always has the right to ask you to do something.
You certainly have the right to say no or to say yes.
She then can, if she chooses, decide to cut off communications with you.
If it were me, I'd be inclined to say no. I never find it all that tempting to pursue relationships based on my usefulness to the other person. Unless she also is useful to you, or there is more to the relationship?
It's very sad to have a relationship with a loved one come to that. But you are, or you should be, more than a free babysitter.
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