Posted by violette on August 3, 2010, at 10:23:51
In reply to Re: Why Is Babble Not Babbling? » violette, posted by Dinah on August 3, 2010, at 9:21:24
> I'd bring in a sheaf of posts to my therapist, and he'd help me see how my own views and experiences were shaping my perceptions and responses in ways that weren't healthy to me. You've mentioned a few times your own personal responses to Admin issues. Do you find it as helpful as I did to bring in printouts of the threads that were upsetting? - Dinah
I could do that but have more important things to work through with him during our limited time (unprocessed childhood trauma). And I developed a habit of self-analysis and use it daily, including things that are less important to my life.
Like your T, he points out my perception distortions, which I always find to be helpful. He does encourage me, however, to be assertive and express myself, my beliefs, my individuality. He thinks it's healthier to feel anger and put it into words instead of internalizing it, turning it against myself.
Though he agrees with me that my perceptions are often accurate. And I'd say some posts in a current thread on the med forum directed toward one individual seem alot more uncivil to me than the analagy of the forum with a kiddie pool. And my T would probably agree. And after somone asked me not to post to them, I decided it to be best to now stay out of that discussion.
Either way, my T always listens and understands before pointing out distortions or usage of less healthy defense mechanisms. We still have alot of work to do, however.
Thanks for the suggestion. You're a sweetie :)
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