Posted by Kath on October 5, 2009, at 18:42:49
In reply to Re: difficulty finding a volunteer gig, posted by Angela2 on October 5, 2009, at 13:52:49
> Well, I am thinking about seeing if this art venue in my city needs any volunteers. I am going to visit it first and see what it's like though, because I've never been there.~ Great idea! Sounds like it would be interesting. Let us know, okay?
> Today has been pretty productive, in terms of getting things done. I mowed the lawn, visited my aunt and drove my mom to work.~ Sounds pretty productive to moi.
:-)
> But while I was at my aunt's, she criticized me for not having a job. I just told her I look for employment on and off and right now I'm not looking and didn't want to talk about it.~ I really admire your directness. Once on chat, I asked you about something & you replied & then said you didn't want to discuss it, then talked about something else. I was blown away by your wonderful ability to know your healthy boundaries & calmly & pleasantly state them & move on!
> But It made me feel bad. I feel like I'm letting her down. Oh well. I know I'm doing the best I can.
~ I'm really sorry she criticized you for not having a job. I personally don't think that's very kind. Maybe you 'triggered' something in her from her past. I'm realizing that I get triggered sometimes by something in other people's lives & I'm also realizing that if that can happen to me, it happens to others also. I think also, that people don't necessarily know they're being triggered!
Yes you Are doing the best you can & I hope you're as pleased as I am for you, that you're giving yourself that acknowledgement.
I'm seeing a lot of wisdom happening, Angela.
:-))
((you))
love, Kath
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