Posted by Dinah on September 10, 2009, at 8:27:19
In reply to Re: Alex got 37 weeks. Sad day. » 10derHeart, posted by Phillipa on September 9, 2009, at 21:27:09
It looked to me like Dr. Bob was trying very hard to encourage Alex to make another choice, just as Alex likely was trying to encourage Dr. Bob to make another choice.
I don't think this time was because of negligence so much as hopefulness, based on his posts to her.
It's a sad situation when two people are doing what they feel they need to do, even though it may hurt both to do it.
It really seems to me that Dr. Bob is trying hard to *not* be the punitive voice from above that he is often seen as. People may disagree over the way he's going about it, but I think he deserves some credit for the intent.
Just my read on that exchange, in its entirety. I could be completely wrong in my reading.
I feel very sad for Alex, and I'll miss her on board presence a lot. She has a fresh way of looking at things, and a direct way of stating them. I appreciate that, and so many other things, about Alex. I'm grateful to have her as a friend, and I wish others had the opportunity as well.
I feel sad for Dr. Bob too. He's extending himself to Babblers as best he can, I think. I find it very frustrating and often feel hurt when my intentions are not greeted in the spirit I intend them. It's hard for me to think of Dr. Bob as feeling hurt like I feel hurt. But he is human, and I'm sure he does on occasion. Of course, our job here is to support each other, not Dr. Bob. But I still see him as a fellow human being, and feel the more general (rather than Babble specific) obligation of one soul to another.
((((((Alex))))))
(((( Dr. Bob ))))
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