Posted by Phil on July 29, 2009, at 16:39:46
In reply to deneb, you made a big mistake, with me, posted by Phil on July 29, 2009, at 5:58:16
I was in group 8 years ago. I thought group was where people discussed their troubles and everyone chimed in their support.
I had no idea I was walking into a shark tank.I'd be talking and someone would say WHAT? You were then front and center while the two of you worked through the problem...or didn't. It was hard because I had depression and no one else did.
At the end of one meeting, a guy said to me, It's always about YOU, YOU, YOU.
I was so p*ssed I never went back, which is a no-no in group.
It was only recently I realized that he was right
and I missed the biggest opportunity of my life by walking away and not working through the problem and asking him what he meant and fixing it.I felt that no one there liked me cause some of them were very confrontational. But that was another key. Why did I feel that no one liked me?
And if they didn't like me, was that my problem, or was it their problem.Group is very effective but it isn't for the faint of heart.
What's the saying?
Hold your friends close, hold your enemies closer.
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