Posted by SLS on July 25, 2009, at 12:20:37
In reply to Re: One provocative question after another » Deneb, posted by Tabitha on July 25, 2009, at 11:36:39
Hi.
Tabitha, you did a nice job here. I don't see a PBC in your immediate future (I hope).
Deneb, one of the things that I like most about you is your ability to keep an open mind and make adjustments along the way. You learn fast. I suspect you will understand what Tabitha and Phil have said, and will consider these things seriously and in the spirit of goodwill that they were offered.
Sometimes, I think that you are just thinking out loud, and not necessarily crying out for attention or approval. Other times, I am not so sure. You do seem to know the answers to most of your own issues and questions, though.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20090714/msgs/908445.html
Perhaps it would be useful to describe to your counselor your interactions with people on Psycho-Babble. I think you would want to include the concerns that have been voiced by people who are concerned about your welfare. You could even print out and bring with you some of the posts that you feel are important.
Keep being Deneb. You are worth caring about.
- Scott
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> Hi Deneb, I've had the same reaction as Phil at times. Maybe I can help explain this a bit. I have had a hard time figuring out if it's something we could discuss without someone getting a PBC, so I haven't said anything. But, so far so good, so I'll try to add my thoughts.
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> I've been confused by your intent with these topics, too. Do you really not understand the risks of mixing alcohol & drugs with meds, and of using alcohol & drugs when you already tend to have suicidal impulses? It's almost difficult to believe you'd need someone to explain that to you, given the amount of time you spend on psych med support groups and the amount of reading you do. You've read the archives about the suicides here, and I think you'll notice they involved people struggling with meds & substance abuse.
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> So when I see you say "I think I'll take up drinking", or "I think I'll use some MJ", etc, it's hard to believe you are not aware of the reaction you'll get from folks. The reaction is naturally "Oh, no! That's so dangerous! I have to convince her not to do that!" And several people jump in with that type of reply.
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> Now there's nothing wrong with that, in fact that's what the board is here for. But when it's repeated over and over, it starts to feel like it's, well, a game or something? I'll answer one, then come back, all worried, to see what you've decided to do. Then you always answer with "it's ok everyone, I won't do it". A bit later, it's another variant of the same. So I feel sort of suckered by the whole thing, like I got hooked in to reacting with worry & caring for something that wasn't really real.
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> Now I understand from your perspective, maybe you think you're just asking an innocent question. But it doesn't feel that way from my side. And I'd think from the reactions you get, you'd start to understand that these questions are provoking a pretty strong reaction in folks, and they can be perceived as manipulations or threats.
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> I would guess that the underlying motivation here isn't really to scare & upset people. I assume it's just your way of getting attention. It works, and you always get quite a few replies. The problem is, over time people get burnt out on having their panic buttons pushed.
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