Posted by fayeroe on June 10, 2009, at 12:32:06
In reply to Re: I don't want to hurt people, posted by garnet71 on June 7, 2009, at 22:13:16
> Well yeah, Deneb...the inabilty to attach to peopel can be hurtful to them, regardless of their intent/your intent to be a nice person. I realize it is not your intention-to not attach to people; you really cannot help it. The problem arises based upon your issues in relation to conventional social standards, that you are "giving back", or reciprocating relationship needs. When you start dating someone, they expect just a bit of reciprocation. See where I'm getting at? If you are unstable, in a sense, to prohibit your abilty to provide this, it may be hurtful to the other person. Ir you realize--or investigate-thatrelatiohships are mutual, maybe you can better grasp this concept.
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> If you have the inabilty to attach to others-others who may become attached to you--do you not see the ramifications?
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> I would be doing you a disservice if I went around and said "hey, Deneb, wonderful you are dating-keep it up".
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> Sometimes honesty trumps all. You can be the decider on that one...OMG # 2!!!
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