Posted by Deneb on June 3, 2009, at 11:13:13
I had a really good session today. I realized many things. Pdoc asked me what I am looking for on Plentyoffish.
I realized that ultimatly I am looking for a boyfriend and I do not have enough attention to give to multiple intense friendships. Pdoc made me realize a dating site is not the best place to find friends. She said usually someone wants more if they are opposite sexed.
So what I will do now is gently let go of all the guys who are interested in me and who I am not interested in or attracted to. I will let them know a distant friendship is fine, as long as it is not intense.
I let the rich guy know I only want a distant friendship. I do not want to change my life very much. I cannot handle multiple intense friendships. I will focus on finding a nice Asian man born in North America who I am attracted to and who can speak Chinese, at least conversationally. It is important to me that my future boyfriend be able to communicate with my parents, who speak Cantonese.
I let rich guy know I do not want to see him more than a couple of times a month at the most and I do not want to email with him everyday. I told him I realized I am looking for just a single close friendship that will develop into something more and he is not the person for me.
Now I will see what his reaction will be. Wish me luck.
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