Posted by SLS on May 4, 2009, at 7:02:25
In reply to My Mom wants me to get married, posted by Deneb on May 2, 2009, at 18:10:35
I don't know what kind of communication you have with your mother. If you can have a serious talk with her about your feelings, perhaps she will understand and desist her badgering you. However, if it is unlikely that conversations with your mother will change her behavior, you might be better to just smile sweetly and say, "Mom, I know you care." and ignore the rest of her badgering if she continues with it. Leave the room if necessary.
Many people believe that there is a script to follow in life. Getting married and having children is written into a great many scripts. However, this is your play, and you get to write your own script as you move forward along your journey through life.
I think you already know what you do and do not want at this juncture. You have verbalized your thoughts and feelings here very well. You can change your mind at any time. Experimentation and taking risks are sometimes involved in change. If you have the courage to explore finding a significant other because that is what you want for yourself, then you have the freedom to do so. If you have the courage to do nothing, then this too represents freedom. However, to start dating for the sake of following someone else's script might not be the best thing for you right now.
How do YOU feel about seeking a significant other right now? You don't have to marry someone to be able to enjoy a rewarding relationship with them. I made the mistake of following the American script and married a women whom I was not in love with. We divorced after three years.
Deneb, you are younger than your mother believes you to be. You have many, many years in front of you. You have time to discover what is right for Deneb, even if it means making mistakes along the way. Just let those mistakes be your own.
- Scott
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