Posted by Kath on July 30, 2008, at 11:19:55
In reply to I don't feel happy anymore, posted by Deneb on July 27, 2008, at 9:56:43
Sorry about the game thing. Phillipa's & your T's explanations both sound quite valid.
Deneb, I also agree with what TC said about being pressured into going somewhere that we don't want to - or doing something that we don't want to do. I think her post is worth printing & referring to if this is a problem for you.
I also agree with Partlycloudy. Sometimes people don't know what to say. And also, sometimes people are feeling so shi**y that they just can't say anything.
Deneb, I want to point out something important. I am really impressed with something. I am impressed with you saying that you wish you could be dead for awhile. There was a time when you would not have added 'for awhile'. I think this is huge growth for you. When I talked with my doctor about not wanting to 'be here', he pointed out that I'm going through a LOT and that I want it to end, and that being dead is one way people can perceive of something being over. He said that some patients say they wish they could go to sleep for a long time & wake up & have things be different. When I feel terrible I can have those feelings. When I talked with my husband about it, he asked me if the certain situation I have been so upset by were TOTALLY different, did I think I'd feel that way. It was hard for me to get my head around it, 'cuz part of me doesn't believe the situation will be different. But when I was able to imagine it - no...I wouldn't want to not be here. It's all about NOT WANTING the situation, or the pain.
Anyhow, I see it as a huge success for you to have shifted that statement (& probably shifting your way of thinking about your life).
((((((((((((((((((you))))))))))))))))))))))))))
love, Kath
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