Posted by SLS on July 6, 2008, at 11:32:36
In reply to Should I be annoyed at this?, posted by Deneb on July 6, 2008, at 1:34:42
Man, my post here turned out to be one big pile of crap. I apologize. If what I said doesn't apply to you, then take the best and forget the rest. It did apply to me before I made the active decision to try to grow through challenging myself and my beliefs. Feelings are spontaneous and the result one's psychodynamics.
> I was chatting at another support site and a teenager (16 years old) there starts talking about how he/she has had schizophrenia for 4 years.
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> Then she (I'll just use she from now on) says that she is having a schizophrenic "episode" right then and there.
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> She goes on to say she is in college early because she is highly intelligent. She gives examples of getting 98% in physics and calculus etc.
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> And...all this time she is spelling "insomnia" "insomiac" and using they're and there for the word "their".
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> Ugh. Simple grammatical errors and spelling mistakes.
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> I just have my doubts about this person.
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> I found it difficult to be supportive and hold my tongue.
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> I suppose it's possible someone can be a genius and not know how to spell simple words and basic grammar?
I have to agree with the other posters. First of all, I often find that the word "should" is a red flag that indicates that the speaker might be fixated on what other people think of them, or that there are feelings of inadequacy. After all, who made up the rules of shoulds and should nots?Feelings are not good or bad. They just are. To attempt to turn them on and off instantaneously seems to me to indicate a lack of self-confidence and perhaps a lack of courage as well. It is not the feelings that come up that are within one's control, but, rather, the thoughts that precipitate the feelings. Feelings will change if thoughts change. CBT. You might become stuck if you don't take each opportunity to grow.
What you felt after reading the post in the other forum reflects exactly your own set of beliefs and biases. So, you see, the core of the problem lies not in the behaviors of another human being, but, rather, in your cognitive construct.
Do you feel indignation that someone should claim themselves to be a genius and yet mispell (sp?) :-) words that you have no trouble with. Albert Einstein had trouble with arithmetic as a young child. What does that say about him?
After all my BS has cleared the air, you will be left with a responsibility. The responsibility is to take inventory of your thoughts, attitudes, and perspectives to know how you would like to make changes through mindfullness.
- Scott
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