Posted by Deneb on February 27, 2008, at 17:55:33
I believe the online sex talk was just a way for me to explore my sexuality, more experimentation than anything. In reality I would not like doing those things.
And that is what matters most, reality. In reality I do not like sex. I'm not sexually attracted to either men or women.
I'm pretty old. I'm 26. I've always been this way. I've never gone through the "raging hormones" stage of life.
I think I should accept my sexual orientation and be proud of it. :-) There should be an asexual pride parade. LOL
We are only 1% of the population.
I have a lot of reasons to believe I'm asexual. First I don't enjoy kissing that is more than an innocent kiss. I never think of people when I masturbate ( which is already a rare event). I never want sex. I think I want cuddling sometimes, but not sex. My ideal life partner would provide me the feeling I get when I think of Dr. Bob. It should be nonsexual, and completely innocent.
Right now I'm crossing my fingers. I've been chatting with this asexual man I found at the asexual dating site. Things are going well right now. We have some things in common. We are both very child-like in our views of the world. We're both very open people.
Right now I'm growing increasingly uncomfortable with the other guy I chat with online. He is too focused on sex. I chat with him on the phone a bit and I don't think it's going to work out.
I want to feel Bob love for my life partner. It makes me feel safe and protected. I feel a bit of this for the asexual man. I don't feel it at all with the other guy.
The attraction I feel for guys is not sexual. It's more of a "want to hug them" feeling. It's definitely not a "want to have sex with them" feeling.
((((((((Dr. Bob))))))))))
(((((((asexual guy))))))))))
poster:Deneb
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