Posted by rskontos on February 24, 2008, at 14:19:20
In reply to I can't Live without my big brother!, posted by your#1fan on February 24, 2008, at 0:54:09
Fan, I am the big sister. So I will try and help with this the best I can.
First you don' have to catch up. It is not a contest. It is about love. The love between two siblings. If he did things, he was just a big brother doing dumb boy stuff to his little brother that I am almost certain he still loves.
My sister and I have not spoken for 14 years until Friday a week ago when I picked up the phone and called her. It was not easy and things are rough. Maybe we can move forward maybe we can't. I am trying I think she is. That is all I can do. Try
That is what you can do. But not from a place of trying to be the same or better than him. but from your heart that you want your brother in your life because you love and miss him. He probably values you more than the house, car etc. Those things are not important to him as much as people. I hope. That is how I feel.
All you can do, like I did, is reach out. Not knowing how you will be received it doesn't matter. What matter is doing what is in your heart.
You will reach a better place one. Fan, you can get the education accomplished one day, just keep moving forward, you can finish college, you can have all the things you want one day. Take each one day at a time. Live in the moment.
I feel, in reading your posts here, and on other boards you get yourself too worked up about the future. You have made a new life for yourself. You are doing some thing about your future. I think you just to relax a bit more and not stress yourself out so much. Life itself is stressful without being so hard on yourself. You are young, it takes time, and all the things you want are possible.
It is great you want him back in your life. Just tell him this. It is not too late. After 14 years, it wasn't too late for me, I think, at least I still have hope. So you should too. Besides, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Start small in your daily life, trying to smooth it out. And when you feel so stressed like you do in the various posts, go sit by yourself and breath slowly for like 2 or 3 minutes, focus on nothing and see if you can't center yourself again. Then go back and see if you can't find your keys or whatever had you so mixed up or out of sorts. It will help you if you spend just a few minutes each day just centering your mind on emptying it of all the baggage. A time to be, maybe outside if the weather is nice.
I think you have a lot to offer the world. So, slow down, take some deep breaths, and go tell your brother, I care and I want us to be brothers again..
Let us know how it goes. You will be alright. ok
rsk
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