Posted by Kath on December 16, 2007, at 17:47:21
In reply to Re: P.S. » Faedra, posted by Phillipa on December 16, 2007, at 12:04:29
Hey you two,
I can relate!
However, 4 years in CoDependents Anonymous helped me greatly.
I'm thinking of looking for an online meeting!
If we get hurt by being 'too nice' - that's not a good thing!!
Currently, I'm working with a counsellor on being less in the "I'M HERE FOR YOU" part of myself & being more in the "I'M HERE FOR MYSELF - what do I like; what makes me feel happy; what makes me feel strong" part of myself.
The other day in a gift shop, the owner came in & was talking to the clerk. The owner apologized to me because her eyes were all red & she was really upset. She said she'd just had to put her cat of 21 years to 'sleep' & was very upset. I instantly went into "Oh jeez - I've got to HELP this poor lady" mode. I went over to her, asked her if she'd like a hug, said I was so sorry, etc etc. Then as she left I asked her if she'd like some Rescue Remedy - I had some in my purse. Before she'd come in I had been telling the clerk (who had a cast on her broken wrist) about homeopathic medicine that helped me when i had a broken toe.
Nice behaviour? Weird behaviour? Blabbering on to total strangers! ANYway - I think the thing that was NOT okay about it was that I was right out of control....as if a switch had been turned on. And when I looked at it with the counsellor, I realized that it's DRAINING to be like that!
Anyway, here I am going on & on.
You're not alone.
luv, Kath
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