Posted by antigua3 on July 26, 2007, at 12:02:32
In reply to Re: Tips on DETACHMENT re:Kids? Son'sRehabIntake e, posted by Sigismund on July 25, 2007, at 18:47:46
Have you ever watched the show Intervention? I never remember when it's on, but when I come across it and watch it, it helps me tons because no matter what we do, they are our children and we love them, but sometimes we're hurting them by unwittingly participating in their abuse (I'm not saying you are at all, just what I see on the show).
The truth is that they have to find their own way. And if your son doesn't want to consider total abstinence, IMO, he is already resistent. Thinking you have to be totally abstinent for the rest of your life can really derail someone in the beginning, but all the person has to say is, today I won't use cocaine. Don't think too far ahead in the beginning, just remind him to think of now, today, this moment. And then if things work well, the moments build on the moments until it's hours, etc.
just a tangent. hope I didn't offend,
antigu
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