Posted by Racer on July 15, 2007, at 20:16:23
In reply to My Mom doesn't want me to go to D.C., posted by Deneb on July 15, 2007, at 17:16:44
Deneb, sweetheart, you are strong enough to go, if you want to, and you're not going to get onto the wrong plane, or bus, or train. First of all, you almost can't get onto the wrong plane anymore, with all the security checks!
But here's the thing -- you are an independent entity from your mother. I think it might be hard for each of you to recognize that. It's hard for a lot of people to make that sort of growth -- mothers as well as daughters. I get the impression your parents have sheltered you a lot, haven't encouraged you to branch out on your own? And it is especially hard for you to work towards independence, when they're putting pressure on you to remain their little girl.
Whether you go to DC or not, sweetheart, is up to you. You're the only one who can decide if you want to go enough to take the risk. You've made such strides lately, I'm sure you can do it. On the other hand, if you're not sure you want to risk it, that's fine, too. If you think you've been a little more fragile lately, maybe it is wisest to stay home -- only you can really know what's best in that regard.
I wish you the best, whatever you do.
poster:Racer
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