Posted by Fivefires on March 14, 2007, at 14:52:25
In reply to Re: How do you deal with your close loved ones' pain? » Kath, posted by fayeroe on March 12, 2007, at 20:02:54
I'm just now reading all followups.
You know, sometimes I would tend to tell my daughter how 'her pain' made 'me feel'. I see this is selfish. I mean, I'm getting it from what FR and De have said here. I feel bad, but that's good. I needed to hear this.
So ... mirror -or- 'feel their pain' and do not expound how it makes me feel.
That's good. Really good.
I've needed this assistance too, as am in an almost identical situation re: a daughter, as Kath, as she knows.
Tough love has never sat right w/ me.
This does. What is this? What is 'the label' for this? (No .. I don't like labeling either; butt, labeling 'good things' might be diff'. Maybe it's something like 'empathizing w/o opinion'.)
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