Posted by corafree on November 11, 2006, at 14:57:23
In reply to Re: What I meant » Declan, posted by Meri-Tuuli on November 10, 2006, at 5:09:07
This has really been an 'eye-opener' 4me.
There have been times I've touched someone on the shoulder or back, and they've pulled away.
I thought it meant they didn't like me (duh). Or, that I wasn't 'good enough' to touch them.
I think I would have wished they'd said, 'don't worry, it's not you, I have a prob' w/ anyone touching me'. Actually, I don't think I made that statement up. I think a person said it to me. I appreciated it. It was a person in a DBT group. Then, we went on to talk.
My mother wasn't 'touching w/ me', but she was w/ my sister. I remember I'd watch them and 'be gel-us(?)'.
But, I was, as I recall my father's big hands and the feel of them patting me on the back .. like 'everything's okay .. I'm here'. My grandmother did that also .. his mother.
Everyone should get that gift. I'll proceed to remember to do that to my son more often.
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