Posted by rainbutterfly on October 14, 2006, at 14:31:23
In reply to maybe taking a break, posted by rainbutterfly on October 14, 2006, at 13:45:31
I know this is a pattern of mine, feeling the need to withdraw when feeling very scared/threatened. I have in the past reacted in the opposite way, with 2 different people, and I soon learnt that was more destructive and hurtful, to both sides. Several people have behaved in that or a very similar way to me. My tolerance towards this behaviour has depended on a lot of issues. Mostly my perception of their intent. Only once though did I fall out with the person completely and permanently. There were a lot of other issues in play there which is not surprising.....
These patterns of mine as stated above only occur online. Maybe I need to think about why.
I feel very exposed and vulnerable posting this. Perhaps this is an occasion where my "cocoon" is necessary :(
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