Posted by corafree on October 4, 2006, at 14:58:58
In reply to Re: You put that very well » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on October 3, 2006, at 7:46:45
A man I've known for 11yrs shaved his beard, and 'I didn't notice'.
An acquaintance w/ good eyesight suddenly donned eye-glasses, and 'I didn't immediately notice'.
Daughter chopped off a lot of hair, and again, 'I didn't notice'.
In these cases, the persons pointed out my lack of recognizing their change, and displayed their disappoinment.
I am guessing they are disappointed because they 'needed their change complemented or validated', or they 'needed to feel I was in sync w/ them'.
It isn't discussed much further than my apologizing for not noticing and saying something like, 'You could shave your head and then 'I might' notice. I'm sorry I'm this way'.
I feel guilty, can see they are disappointed, and my apology 'wasn't a fix'.
AFA recognizing a person here by their style of posting, etc., 'I'd prob' not notice that either'.
What's wrong w/ me? Am I 'way' self-absorbed, or just plain 'dumb'?
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