Posted by Blonde Bomb on September 12, 2006, at 17:32:54
In reply to curious......new poster or name change? » Blonde Bomb, posted by zenhussy on September 12, 2006, at 16:35:25
Wonderfully wise perceptions. . . THANK you so much for the excellent insight. I look forward to the day when I, like you, can barely remember what the big tragedy was at the time. And, you're right - Kalamatianos did, indeed, have some on target remarks. . . I won't even remember the names of the vast majority of the people at that event - and we're not talking as long as ten years from now, but closer to five!
Right now, though, the raw pain of it is still pretty fresh, especially since I'm not yet sure what the full consequences will be. Oh well, I'll live.
I am brand new to the Dr. Bob Psycho Babble experience. I found your message by placing into Google Search 'Why do Smart People Do Stupid Things?' It took me straight to your message. . . isn't that wild? Hey, I was feeling pretty darned needy to do some anonymous soul-baring and to receive some good feedback and was really reaching out. . . glad you were there!
Thanks!
BB
> three parter post.....
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> first part...
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> if you're new...welcome! glad an old thread struck something in you. archives are handy that way to note self progress, change, areas that need more attention and the like. some journal, some post, whatever works as the ability to celebrate how hard one has worked to change and that change is often slow and not noticable until down the road with new perspective. meh ramble ramble.
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> >>All I do know is that the very little bit of gain I cunningly garnered was NOT worth it and I just wish I could go back and undo it all!
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> sorry to hear but glad you're aware whatever it is you did was not worth it and hopefully this life lesson will stick so there isn't a next time.
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> some random quotes that may, or may not, apply here....
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> "Experience is that marvelous thing that enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again." --Franklin P. Jones
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> "Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes." --Oscar Wilde, Lady Windermere's Fan
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> "Experience is not what happens to a man,; it is what a man does with what happens to him."
> --Aldous Huxley
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> "The stupid neither forgive nor forget, the naïve forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget." --Thomas Szasz, The Second Sin
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> second part...
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> did you use to post under another name? if so then maybe you weren't aware of this http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#names from the FAQ....
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> Can I change my name?
> Please don't post under more than one name at the same time. If for any reason you feel you need to change your posting name, follow these steps:
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> 1). Stop posting under your current name.
> 2). Re-register ("for the first time") under a new name.
> 3). Post a message (under your new name) at Psycho-Babble Administration to let others know that you used to post under a different name. This is to try to reassure them that posters who appear to be new really are new. You don't have to say what your old name was.
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> third part...
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> boy did Kalamatianos have some dead on input back then! bull's eye!
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> >>R U sure? » zenhussy
> Posted by Kalamatianos on December 8, 2003, at 23:58:08
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> >>Messy is as messy does, is a lie. Look at yourself as if you are 10 years from now. Will anyone else give a hoot? Forgive yourself now and don't wait that 10 years. When I learned to separate who-I-is from what-I-did, I stopped forgiving myself and no one noticed but me.
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> bingo. almost three years later and only a vague inkling of whatever was so distressing and worthy of beating oneself every-which-way....gosh it is wild to see Kalamatianos, Lyrical13, KellyD and sienna, mair, shar, nikki, falls and 8miles........timewarp of names. warm memories of all these folks. would not have gotten through those times until now if not for these folks and others.
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> namaste
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