Posted by Snoozin on August 3, 2006, at 20:58:31
In reply to I have serious problems..., posted by cloudydaze on August 3, 2006, at 20:47:57
You are not a horrible person. Caring for a physically ill person is a *lot* of work, and takes a huge toll emotionally. I don't know how old you are, but did your mother just assume you would take up caretaking duties like this? Did the two of you discuss it?
It's very appropriate and probably necessary to set boundaries here. If you don't feel like you can care for your grandmother, you won't be doing her or anyone else any good. It's *not* selfish to say no. Others might try to make you think so, might try to manipulate your behavior, but you are not being selfish.
Has anyone explored other options like nurses who come in during the day to help?
Please, please don't feel like you are a horrible person. You are not. Perhaps you can think of an alternative, like taking up the family grocery shopping or other chores to give other family members (your mother!) time to care for your grandmother.
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