Posted by Kath on June 11, 2006, at 19:05:00
In reply to thanks, posted by pseudoname on June 8, 2006, at 9:16:00
Those are great responses!!!!
I'd love to use "I'm not going to dignify that with a response" whereupon I'd quickly change the subject & keep talking, for ex...."so what do you think of this ongoing heat spell we're having? Anyone heard how long it's supposed to last?"
Much more aggressive & I probably would never have the nerve to do it!!!
The thing with a situation like this is:
If the others who were with you are decent people, they probably think BiL is a total jerk to say something like that OR that you know each other well enough to joke around & that you're not uncomfortable with it.
I often think that other people often don't realize how uncomfortable we might be.
You sound like a sensitive person & we SP's suffer 'way more than those who aren't so sensitive. I think SP's are really nice people. I think we could benefit from letting more stuff "roll off our backs" like water off a duck's back. It's hard to learn to do that though.
Hope you get to use T's suggestions.
Kath
PS - the situation at the campfire shows that other people KNOW that BiL is an a******
:-))
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