Posted by fairywings on May 21, 2006, at 23:49:43
In reply to Can't detach from 22yr old son's stupid choices..., posted by Kath on May 21, 2006, at 11:38:39
I'm really sorry you're going through this Kath. Our children are still young; I can't imagine the pain you're going through, but I can understand not being able to detach.
A family member was very much like your son. They still lived with their parent until they were 35, and even then they were very dependent on the parent financially - drugs, gambling, making bad choices, having a lot of job turnover. The parent bailed them out until they died unexpectedly. It was sink or swim. Very sad.
You're not a bad parent Kath - it's obvious you care very deeply, or you wouldn't be so overwhelmed by his situation. I hope somehow you can find a way to deal with your anxiety over the situation. It sounds like it's eating you up.
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