Posted by sleepygirl on January 31, 2006, at 10:32:08
In reply to so let me give you a hypothetical................., posted by sleepygirl on January 27, 2006, at 14:06:01
So I have gotten some really thoughtful advice on this board - (bows in appreciation)
As of now, I'm sending a brief thank you note for consideration.
I realize that perhaps I did not anticipate how this whole process might go down from the get go, and I think I needed to be a bit more clear (in myself and with her) about what I needed.
When she wanted an "OK" about interviewing, and I said I couldn't tell her what to do I missed an opportunity I guess.I'm still annoyed of course that she wanted me to tell her what to do without realizing that I am just doing what I need to do, and I need to focus on that - I sort of feel like people should 'just know', and decide for themselves what they will do according to their own conscience.
In this process I think she used the info she got from me to her best interest, and that sort of bugs me. It's about paying the bills after all - important stuff.
I'm still hurt/angry/sad(all that), but in the interest of changing ineffective ways of how I deal with certain things I let her know I want to sit down and talk to her about it. For better or for worse it is what it is - it's done so I might as well deal with it.
I hope it goes well. Thanks everyone. :-)
-sleepygirl
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