Posted by sleepygirl on January 27, 2006, at 16:25:42
In reply to Sounds more like a self-centered twit than friend., posted by crazy teresa on January 27, 2006, at 16:04:48
> That's not the kind of friend most need many of.
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> You do know, it's ok to take care of yourself ahead of everyone else in this case? Don't divulge any info to her, regarding your job search. It sounds as if she may use any you give her against you. If she brings it up, change the subject after saying things are going fine.
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Thanks ct - sounds like good advice.
The thing is that I keep telling myself that she's just taking care of herself, and everyone has to right? but I think I neglected the need to take care of myself first. I mean am I expecting her to be overly concerned with me? to just "know" that this is uncomfortable. I think I was too concerned with assuaging her anxiety.Did I need to be more assertive and explicit right from the start? .....like "You will interview if you like and I cannot tell you what to do, but please know that I really need a job, and you will be competition."
but why do I need to say that? I keep thinking she wants me to tell her it is all OK....but I guess it isn't
> Technically they are supposed to do all interviews before deciding at most places. I only know this because I was up for a 2nd interview once (internal position) and had a miscarriage. The kind lady rescheduled it after she'd heard what happened (not from me) for a few weeks later and made everyone wait. Nice for me, not the others.
good to know
> So while you're waiting, should you send her a very heartfelt (not mushy or suck-up) thank you note? Or have a small boquet delivered? Not sure what the protocal is. May depend on the job.
I sent a follow up email thank you, but that sounds better, thanks.
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