Posted by sleepygirl on January 24, 2006, at 19:25:17
In reply to attraction to therapist, trust....please help, posted by asmita on January 24, 2006, at 17:59:46
Hey there,
goodness that's a lot to deal with, but fear not! many here have dealt with such strong, anxiety provoking feelings
There's a book referred to on this site "In Session" that supposedly talks about just this thing. The author was on here for a little while months ago answering questions and such.Sounds like "transference" to me - know in psychodynamic theory as the thing that is both the obstacle as well as the means to progress in therapy - little comfort for those however who must feel the feelings. I haven't even teased out all this stuff for myself yet with my therapist, but that supersensitivity to the possibility of rejection/abandonment - holy crap! that was HUGE for me - (after all I was rejected/abandoned by my father)
A good therapist (and thank goodness for mine) can help you explore these feelings, but it does take a significant amount of courage sometimes to bring them up. I myself had to write down a lot of stuff to be able to talk about it - it can seem so overwhelming. You might even want to print your post and give it to him, or whatever part of it you can - it was quite clear and honest about your struggle.
This sounds like many have said here like the "elephant in the room" - and sometimes it feels like nothing is being spoken about, because the biggest thing in the room is not being spoken about. Maybe you could start with something like......
I have some feelings I feel really embarrassed about and I'm afraid of how you might react........
YIKES! that's scary right?
Oh my dear, these relationships are tough - similar to the ones in the rest of our life ;-(, now doesn't that suck?
Keep posting -
there is hope :-)all the best,
sleepygirl
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