Posted by alexandra_k on December 22, 2005, at 12:21:59
In reply to Re: Instant gratification, posted by rjlockhart on December 20, 2005, at 23:20:23
> ((((rjlockheart))))
>
> i'm sorry you don't get many responses sometimes.
> i think sometimes people just don't know how to connect.
> but i think you are a part of the boards here.
> i read your posts to catch up with how you are doing.
> i'm sorry i don't know what to say sometimes...
> but i do value your being here.
> and i'd miss you if you stopped posting :-(
and that being said...
the reason i don't reply to your posts is that you don't acknowledge my responses. i have responsed to you a bit and have found that either you ignore my response completely or you kind of say thanks! then start a new thread asking exactly the same question again or something like that so i feel like my responses aren't valued.also... you have never posted to a thread that i have started. not once (to the best of my knowledge).
you might find...
that that is a recurrent pattern???
and that that is why you don't get more responses???
what i have learned from the boards...
is that there are an awful lot of posts.
and i don't know that anybody reads all of the posts on the board.
and of all the posts that people do read i don't think they respond to all of the posts they read either.how do they decide what posts to read?
how do they decide what posts to respond to?there is some stuff that various posters have said in the FAQ.
for me...
if people respond to my threads i tend to try and read their posts.
if they seem to have taken a lot of time / effort in their post then i especially try and tend to read their posts.
and i try... to return the favour.
sometimes... i'm not very good at that.
i was hoping to try and catch up with people before my internet access ran out... but... i'm out of time fairly much and have a whole heap of christmas shopping to do today (ugh).but i also read around according to topic etc.
and there...
if people thank me then i am probably more likely to read their posts.
if people seem to get something from what i have to say and write a thoughtful response to me then i tend to respond more to their posts.so if you want responses...
then you need to foster that.when i don't feel connected with the boards (with people on the boards) i find the fastest way for me to feel connected is to spend some time reading and writing thoughtful responses to other peoples posts. especially to other people who i know are likely to respond thoughtfully to my responses. then the next day... (or sometimes even the same day) bingo. responses :-) and i feel connected again.
whereas... if i try and maximise responses by starting new thread after new thread... people may stop reading... or may just post one liners...
sometimes there is a quality / quantity issue...
some things to think about.
perhaps
poster:alexandra_k
thread:590852
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20051215/msgs/591260.html