Posted by Thomasin on August 9, 2005, at 11:58:35
In reply to Re: Another shoe dropped., posted by Dinah on August 9, 2005, at 11:08:14
Yeah,
In a way I feel that both my father and my brother and I were lucky he died in a sudden accident(my dad was hit by a car in '97)because there wasn't any of that exausting and overwhelming slow debilitation. He was here in all his totally alive wonderfulness and then he wasn't. And, while we did not get to say goodbye, we didn't have to bear witness to a slow fade either.
I watched my Mother deal with the slow process of her parents deaths and I know it was so hard for her...I know it's easier said than done but if you can try to stay in the moment dealing with or appreciating each small thing as it comes along and not projecting the fretting and angst into the stuff that hasn't happened yet, you might find it helpful...
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