Posted by JenStar on August 1, 2005, at 23:51:04
In reply to What is a soul mate to you?, posted by happyflower on July 30, 2005, at 18:36:21
good question, although I'm not sure I have an answer!
I don't really know what it takes - I think it's a combination of instant attraction AND a lifetime of getting to know each other and growing together. Sometimes couples start out fresh and green; they know that they LIKE each other but it's only after some time that they really "groove" together and become like a single entity in some ways.
I used to think that there was only one special soul mate out there for everyone. I'm not sure I believe that anymore. I think lots of people would "work" as a soul mate for each of us, as long as you have the love and put in the work. But you have to choose one and stick with one and let all the others fall to the wayside.
But once you truly have a soul mate...if you lose that person, I'm not sure you can develop it again quickly or easily. It's too painful.
What do you think?
J
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