Posted by Nickengland on July 24, 2005, at 7:23:17
In reply to Re: The main difference..., posted by Phillipa on July 23, 2005, at 19:02:40
Ahhh Phillipa so sorry to hear that things havent exactly *panned out* how you so much much wanted them to...
And thats very true about what you say "is the grass always greener on the other side?" The answer to that is sometimes is not. Its just sometimes a diffferent shade of green. The thing is, when your thinking of making a life altering disicion, I think you have to ask yourself, why are you thinking that in the first place? For example, look at the side of the grass your on now...and if you not exactly happy with it - this probably the reason why your looking to better it. The important thing is I have found, is to know why and how you want to make it better. Weigh up the Pro's and Con's so to speak and think about as much as you can about the end result of the desicion you make..i.e where exactly is it going to take you and is it going to be any better than where you are now? (I know it can drive you crazy racking your brains trying to find the answers to these questions)
I think what Racer suggested was a very good idea with regards to part-time nursing...perhaps even outside of mental health. Its surely not impossible I would of thought. And maybe just what the doctor ordered (no pun intended lol) as you say your 59 years old and you dont want to burn yourself out completely with your nerves and back working full-time. Hey - you could be even think about retirement soon...relaxing and part-time work to keep you busy and extra income.. (sorry I didn't mean to make you feel old by mentioning retirement..I wish I could retire though!)
As for me I often wonder about the grass being greener on the other side. I look at what I have now though and i'm really not happy with it....I mean i'm not going forward at all and therefore, for the grass to be greener on the other side - perhaps it won't...but I cannot continue like this and its the best way I can see now with regards to changing it.
Just a little taster of what I have now -Havent worked in more or less a year (I need a job big-time) I have no soical life so to speak. (all my old friends love to party...not such a bad thing, but bad that they and alot of people around this area live in a 'drug culture' of cocaine, weed and ecstacy..this is what their 'social life is based upon...I'm taking medication which is keeping me well now and I don't want to be apart of the other kinds of medications they use. Also I live with my parents - who constantly argue..the atmosphere is not a nice 'warm loving family home' (its hell sometimes) And I havent had a girl friend in over 2 years! I feel trapped where I am right now. But I know a way out and have thought of the consequences so much that if i thought anymore about it my head would spin off lol
If it wasn't for Australia then Id get myself into some kind of career, but I just can't see a sutable direction or angle from where I am now to get the ball rolling for me to do that. I'm hoping Australia will give me the break I need to clear the cob webs, be independent and take control of things. (easier said than done!) lol
You know the first job im going to do in Australia? Fruit picking! Theraputic, physical hard work to build me up for 3 months lol. Just so happens after doing this i'll then be entitled to extend my visa making it a total of 2 years So that will be outside the mian cities in regional Australia, then i'll be ready to venture into the city and work in perhaps a bar or cafe...work on my social skills, onwards and upwards from there hopefully. I have to do this by myself, i'm moving there alone and sometimes it does feel alittle daunting....but i'm going to relish the challenge and know that at least im going forward...
Look at your nursing like this in a similar way...if you can plan and think you could do better in Charlotte NC than you can where you at the moment....then by all means move to Charlotte NC. But if what you can get in Charlotte NC - you could already have where you are right now in Emerald Isle...maybe you dont have to go through all the extra stress of moving? Weigh up the Pro's and Con's, but I know its very hard to reach such a decision.
Simple problems can sometimes have complex answers.
Complex problems can sometimes have simple answers.
Kind regards
Nick
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