Posted by crazy teresa on July 23, 2005, at 13:58:17
In reply to Uncomfortable in my own skin, posted by AdaGrace on July 23, 2005, at 0:16:24
Adagrace,
I'm so sorry you feel this way. I felt like that for a long time after our daughter died. I found that going to a grief support group really helped me feel more normal. Until then, I was soooo angry that the world hadn't stopped. I wanted everyone else to be as devistated as I was. I was angry that I was a good mom and people who neglect/abuse/kill their children kept having live children. I felt like every time I left the house, people were saying, "She's the one that had the dead baby," because I felt so guilty and ashamed, as if I could have/should have prevented it. The only way I could describe the feeling to my husband was that I wanted to crawl out of my skin.
Sharing with others who truly understand was so freeing for me. It didn't make the pain go away and I still grieved, but it validated what I was going through. Unless you've been there, it's impossible to understand.
Nobody around me wanted to talk about it. In retrospect I understand why they were so uncomfortable. Nobody knew what to say, or if they should say anything at all. When you're in a room with others who have been there and they're expressing all the same thoughts and emotions, you realize you're not alone, you're not crazy, you can laugh, you can cry, you can be yourself, and you can begin to heal.
Teresa
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