Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2005, at 16:09:06
In reply to Re: Drama triangle » Dinah, posted by greyskyeyes on July 22, 2005, at 15:07:31
Well, this isn't the first time, and won't be the last. I just thought it was an interesting way to view the dynamic.
Since we were in private, we were of course able to name names. But we concentrated on me (naturally enough). In particular my windmill tilting tendencies and my recognition that trying to help often backfires. I tend to see my backing off as a wry recognition of my impotence rather than a lack of caring. But my therapist sees it as a healthy backing out of the triangle which is more likely to help everyone than trying to help would be.
I'm still not absolutely sure of that. I've been on the receiving end of kind words of support too many times to think they are better left unsaid.
Maybe it depends on the form of "rescue" offered?
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