Posted by Shy_Girl on May 12, 2005, at 18:14:23
In reply to Re: Scared...may have conversed with a predator » Shy_Girl, posted by JenStar on May 12, 2005, at 16:35:41
> Why do you think he's a predator? Because he's asking questions about sex/relationships?
Yes, mostly. He's asking me personal things like, am I a virgin and stuff like that. He's pretty old too, in his early 60s. Now he's asking for my pic. and sent me this huge attachment in his e-mail (I didn't open it). Thankfully, I used my hotmail account.
>Some people might get too intimate too quickly, but you also said he puts a lot of effort into his replies. Is it possible that instead of being a predator, he's just a "regular guy" who's interested in you?
Maybe, I don't know...but either way, my intention was not to start a relationship. Maybe I am extremely naive or something. I think it is possible to talk to guys as friends.
> Even so, I think it's good to be cautious, especially if your gut tells you this guy is "off." You have the power to tell him "No" to anything he asks. You also have the power to stop conversing with him. YOu don't owe him anything, really. If you're going to cut off the relationship, you could say something like "I've enjoyed talking with you but at this point in my life I'm not ready for any relationships, and I feel it's best for us to stop conversing." That way you're clear about it, but not cruel.
Yes, I sort of did that...I mentioned that it's a policy of mine to never send pics or open attachments...maybe he will get the point.
> If you think he truly is a predator, you should probably stop all contact. If you think he's just a lonely guy trying to connect, play it the way you feel.
Yes, I will see if and how he replies to my refusal...it's just very creepy...I feel like he is almost "grooming" me...I know I'm an adult and everything, but I don't have much life experience at all. It's like he used the topic of suicide to hook onto me, then slowly coaxes me to give out more and more details of my life...until, before I know it, he is boldly asking me about sex.
> You've mentioned before that sometimes you feel extra anxious & paranoid about things - how are you doing right now?Still anxious....a little less paranoid that he is going to track me down...phew. I'm going to play it safe. Thanks for making me feel better.
SG
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