Posted by alexandra_k on March 10, 2005, at 3:26:57
In reply to need advice on my marriage..help, posted by woolav on March 10, 2005, at 1:12:31
That does seem strange... Most unlike him. Could you maybe 'assume the truth' of his story (sort of for arguments sake) and ask him why he decided to do that when he doesn't usually and why he didn't call you to tell you so that you wouldn't worry?
I mean, those last bits are strange. His story may be true, but I would still want an explanation for those.
Maybe if you can kind of talk to him about it in a non-confrontational way (like you are really trying to understand) then you will be able to kind of tell a bit more from the way the conversation goes as to what is going on.
Lies are typically hard to sustain without running oneself into contradiction or without simply breaking down and admitting the truth.
If something was going on with her then I would think that he would have fabricated some excuse before hand in case you went down to see if he was alright (like you did).
Unless this is a new thing...
In which case I imagine he would break down on questioning.I don't know. That is a hard one. I guess you just need to give him the benefit of the doubt (to start with at least) and try to talk to him about what is going on.
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